In this video, Rosa Gómez narrates her own success story. You can watch it by clicking on the embedded video shown below. This video has closed captions that you can enable or disable by pressing the menu icon at the lower righthand corner of the video, and the transcript is also provided below. Click here to view the video with audio descriptions of the images.
I was born with a condition that caused my vision to get progressively worse. When I was six years old, I began going to a school for the blind so that I could learn Braille and touch typing and mainstream back to the public school system. Even as a little girl, I noticed that most of the adult women at the school who were visually impaired were unmarried and didn't have children.
Despite this lack of role models, I always planned to have a family. As I grew up I was just as good at making friends and meeting guys as anybody else. That doesn’t mean it was easy, it just meant that making friends is hard for everybody, not just for people with disabilities.
I remember talking to one of my non-disabled friends and she was telling me about how she was flirting with a guy and smiling, but he was totally uninterested and so she felt bad. Everybody feels disappointed that way sometimes, but we need to make sure that we don’t dwell on the negative moments.
When you are going to meet somebody, you wonder, “will I be accepted or not?” In my case, I might worry about whether a guy will ignore me because I was blind, but really everybody has something to worry about, be it your disability, your skin color, whether you have enough money, your hair style, or whatever. Being nervous in this type of situation is just part of human nature.
When I was 18, I remember my brother being worried about something else. He asked me, “Do you want to have kids? I don’t know if I do, because what if they have our condition and go blind. Would you want them to go through what we went through?”
I answered his question with a question of my own, “What did we go through?” He didn’t answer me, but I can tell you that my childhood was pretty good. It had the normal ups and downs, but I had a loving and supportive family and I did well in school.
Eventually, I went to college and later I met my husband. Today, I feel blessed to have four wonderful children. My brother changed his mind too – he is married and has two children of his own.
I've realized that everybody has struggles, whether or not they have a disability. Sure, a disability can make things a little more complicated sometimes, but the truth is that life is complicated for everybody and we all just have to figure out our own ways to make our lives fulfilling.
Written and narrated by Rosa Gómez.
Photos provided by Rosa Gómez and from the Public Domain.